The Longing Lab

Valentine Special: My husband Dave Butler on relationships, intimacy, and vulnerability

February 14, 2023 Amanda McCracken Season 2 Episode 9
Valentine Special: My husband Dave Butler on relationships, intimacy, and vulnerability
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The Longing Lab
Valentine Special: My husband Dave Butler on relationships, intimacy, and vulnerability
Feb 14, 2023 Season 2 Episode 9
Amanda McCracken

Episode 9: In this Valentine’s Day special, Dave speaks with Amanda about how their relationship developed from meeting to getting married, the pivotal moments during their 11-month-courtship, and the importance of seeing a couple’s therapist.
  
Dave  Butler is my husband, life partner, and the father of our child Moorea. He is also an environmental scientist, project manager, and geologist. Originally from Long Island, Dave was a drummer in a NYC-based band called Nuclear Cream Cheese. He is an ultra mountain trail runner, a New York Yankees fan, and a reformed Catholic. 
 
In this episode, (in order) we talked about…

*How longing transpires in our lives

*How we met each other before we really met each other

*The questionable rebound zone

*Our first date and our first kiss (his firsts in 20 years)

*His “freedom tour" plan following his divorce

*Communicating versus playing games in relationships (work or personal)

*How he first met my parents and grandma in Ohio without me

*His first response to learning I was a 40-year-old virgin

*Visiting our respective therapists together in the first two months of dating

*Our four-day trip to Paris

*The moments we revealed our love for each other in spoken and written word

*Our response to having sex for the first time together

*The marriage proposal

*Why we see a therapist once a month

*Dangers and benefits in comparing past relationships 

*Advice he’ll give our daughter on love and relationships

 

 Let's connect: www.amandajmccracken.com

Show Notes

Episode 9: In this Valentine’s Day special, Dave speaks with Amanda about how their relationship developed from meeting to getting married, the pivotal moments during their 11-month-courtship, and the importance of seeing a couple’s therapist.
  
Dave  Butler is my husband, life partner, and the father of our child Moorea. He is also an environmental scientist, project manager, and geologist. Originally from Long Island, Dave was a drummer in a NYC-based band called Nuclear Cream Cheese. He is an ultra mountain trail runner, a New York Yankees fan, and a reformed Catholic. 
 
In this episode, (in order) we talked about…

*How longing transpires in our lives

*How we met each other before we really met each other

*The questionable rebound zone

*Our first date and our first kiss (his firsts in 20 years)

*His “freedom tour" plan following his divorce

*Communicating versus playing games in relationships (work or personal)

*How he first met my parents and grandma in Ohio without me

*His first response to learning I was a 40-year-old virgin

*Visiting our respective therapists together in the first two months of dating

*Our four-day trip to Paris

*The moments we revealed our love for each other in spoken and written word

*Our response to having sex for the first time together

*The marriage proposal

*Why we see a therapist once a month

*Dangers and benefits in comparing past relationships 

*Advice he’ll give our daughter on love and relationships

 

 Let's connect: www.amandajmccracken.com